Father honours Reena Virk with book
He says writing helped him grieve
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| Judith Lavoie |
| Times Colonist |
Sunday, September 07, 2008
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are pictures of Reena as a baby, as a toddler, as a 12-year-old and a
photo of the family together, before disaster struck.They are
pictures which, for years, Manjit Virk could not bring himself to look
at, but the catharsis of writing a book is helping Virk and his wife,
Suman, move on with life after the murder of their daughter."Initially
it was so hard for me. I could not look at any photos. I could not look
at her clothes. As time has gone on, I am over that and I can see her
photos," Virk said."It helped just to write it down. It helped me grieve."But,
even with a cushion of 11 years since 14-year-old Reena was beaten by
eight teenagers under the Craigflower Bridge and then killed, there are
places her father cannot face."I cannot go to the Gorge Park
where she was drowned and where we used to go as a family to play, and
I cannot go to the Craigflower Bridge. It's out of limits for me," he
said.The book Reena: A Father's Story, published by Heritage
House, will be released in October, and Virk's fervent hope is it will
help other families.The strongest message is that families must
take care of their children, not pass them off to government, and
parents must protect children from the outside stresses and peer
pressure, Virk said."When [Reena] went into the hands of outsiders, nothing worked from that day," he said.Children
need firm boundaries and strong parental understanding and support, and
when that is missing, it is devastating, he said.Although there
is residual bitterness about the role the Ministry for Children and
Family Development played in taking Reena into foster care after she
levelled allegations of abuse, which she later recanted, Virk is
generous toward social workers."I am sure they have good intentions, but the system is so broken," he said.Virk
started writing the book two years ago with the aim of setting the
record straight. People now believe the Virks are a loving, normal
family, but it has been a long road, Virk said.This week, another bump appeared in the road as the B.C. Court of Appeal ordered a fourth trial for accused killer Kelly Ellard.It
is ironic that the family's civil lawsuit against the ministry and the
families of Ellard and Warren Glowatski, the other teen convicted of
second-degree murder, was dismissed because of delays, but the Ellard
trials keep dragging out, Virk said."The system has become such a joke. There cannot be unending pain," Virk said.The
family will have the least possible involvement in any new trial and,
instead, with the book hitting stores shortly, will try to move forward
with their lives, he said.